\[ **BT: [[marriage laws and customs]]** ] \[ **RT: [[monogamy]]** ] --- # non-monogamy [[Amatonormativity places monogamous romantic relationships upon a pedestal as the personal and societal ideal.]][^1] - ↬ [Monogamy isn’t biblical; it’s Roman](https://www.patheos.com/blogs/lovejoyfeminism/2015/03/monogamy-isnt-biblical-its-roman.html) ## non-monogamy and ideas about gender [[Stereotypes about monogamy—and non-monogamy—have long been gendered.]][^2] [[Women voluntarily participate in non-monogamous relationships ‘are a direct challenge to the idea that women are “naturally” monogamous.’]][^3] ## consensual non-monogamy ### types of consensual non-monogamy #### polyamory [[Polyamory is the practice of having multiple romantic relationships, with all parties having full knowledge and granting full consent.]][^4] [[In countries where adultery is not illegal, polyamorous de facto relationships may be permitted (tolerated).]][^5] [[Stigma against non-monogamy is beyond a joke; researchers have uncovered assumptions that the non-monogamous are simply bad people.]][^3] ##### kitchen table polyamory ##### closed-group polyamory [[Closed-group polyamory is when polyamorous people sleep together 'within an exclusive group of partners who do not have sexual relationships outside of the group.’]][^6] [^1]: Carrie Jenkins, ‘[[Jenkins, ‘How a Hackneyed Romantic Ideal is Used to Stigmatise Polyamory’, 2017|How a Hackneyed Romantic Ideal is Used to Stigmatise Polyamory]]’, *Aeon*, 3 February 2017, [https://aeon.co/ideas/how-a-hackneyed-romantic-ideal-is-used-to-stigmatise-polyamory](https://aeon.co/ideas/how-a-hackneyed-romantic-ideal-is-used-to-stigmatise-polyamory). [^2]: Carrie Jenkins, ‘[[Jenkins, ‘How a Hackneyed Romantic Ideal is Used to Stigmatise Polyamory’, 2017|How a Hackneyed Romantic Ideal is Used to Stigmatise Polyamory]]’, *Aeon*, 3 February 2017, [https://aeon.co/ideas/how-a-hackneyed-romantic-ideal-is-used-to-stigmatise-polyamory](https://aeon.co/ideas/how-a-hackneyed-romantic-ideal-is-used-to-stigmatise-polyamory). [^3]: Carrie Jenkins, ‘[[Jenkins, ‘How a Hackneyed Romantic Ideal is Used to Stigmatise Polyamory’, 2017|How a Hackneyed Romantic Ideal is Used to Stigmatise Polyamory]]’, *Aeon*, 3 February 2017, [https://aeon.co/ideas/how-a-hackneyed-romantic-ideal-is-used-to-stigmatise-polyamory](https://aeon.co/ideas/how-a-hackneyed-romantic-ideal-is-used-to-stigmatise-polyamory). [^4]: ‘Countries Where Polygamy Is Legal 2024’, World Population Review, accessed 30 July 2024, https://worldpopulationreview.com/country-rankings/countries-where-polygamy-is-legal. [^5]: Countries Where Polygamy Is Legal 2024’, World Population Review, accessed 30 July 2024, https://worldpopulationreview.com/country-rankings/countries-where-polygamy-is-legal. [^6]: Bianca Palmisano, *[[Palmisano, Safer Sex for Trans Bodies, 2021|Safer Sex for Trans Bodies]]* (Whitman-Walker Health and Human Rights Campaign Foundation, 2021), p. 18.